Make new friends, but keep the old,
Some are silver, and some are gold.
The call came that there may be an issue with the transportation to mom’s appointment. The appointment was important, it was in four hours, she lives in Florida, doesn’t drive anymore and doesn’t Uber. I banged my head against the wall for a minute and then called Judy. She immediately said that, of course, she would be happy to take Mom and that she would plan a stop on the way home for a milkshake- she knows Mom loves milkshakes. This was the response from a person who owns her own business, had been out of town for a week, and already had a busy day planned.
This woman has been my best friend for 44 years.
I was the shy, quiet new girl back in 1972. Judy was the popular girl-she knew everyone and everyone knew her. For some reason- pity, we the tallest girls in the class, who knows- she took me under her wing and guided me through my new school, showed me around the neighborhood and introduced me to life in a college town.
We became inseparable. We shared clothes, we double dated, we ate lunch at school together every day all the way through high school, we both worked at the Mall. She and I started having dinner parties, at age 15. We went to Mass on Saturday night so we could go to the beach on Sunday. We both graduated from college with a degree in Public Relations. We started our own businesses the same year. She was my maid of honor and gave me a baby shower for the first kid. We have shared many wonderful things, always had each other’s back, and when needed, been there with a shoulder to cry on and a hand to hold.
We haven’t lived in the same city since 1978-but she is there, for me, always.
So, my dear Brides and Grooms, as you prepare for your wedding festivities-look around at your friends. Pay attention to the people who are helping you, whether it’s running errands, getting fitted for the tux in a timely manner, or just showing up. Appreciate them. On your wedding day, take time to look out over the room. Remember the faces and the feelings. These are your people. Love them.
If you are half as lucky as I am, in that room there is one or two folks that you will share the rest of your life’s ups and downs with and who may, some day, be there to give your Mom a ride.Read More